Indiana parents plead for return of stolen necklace containing son’s ashes

PERU, Ind. — A plea on a Facebook Marketplace page from an Indiana woman on behalf of her ex-husband whose pickup truck was broken into over the weekend is gaining widespread attention because of what was stolen.

Tess Brass published the post on behalf of her ex-husband, Mike Arbuckle, whose red Ford pickup was burglarized outside his job at an aircraft painting company in Peru, Indiana, about 80 miles north of Indianapolis.

As of Wednesday morning, the post had drawn more than 100 comments and had been shared more than 1,350 times.

The inside of the truck was trashed. A console was damaged and $20 in change was stolen. But none of that compares to the one item Brass and Arbuckle cherished the most that was taken — a silver Legacy Touch Cross necklace containing the ashes of their son.

“If they have a heart at all, which I’m really hoping they do, they will just put it back,” Brass said.

Their 19-year-old son, Patrick, who died November 2015, was cremated and his remains deposited in two necklaces. Brass holds the other, as Arbuckle hopes his is returned.

“To us, it’s a violation because that’s our child and he is in the hands of strangers,” Brass told the Kokomo, Indiana Tribune. “We just want him given back, even if they just open the cross and put the ashes in a baggie or something. Just put him back. That’s something that you can’t get back, and it’s breaking our hearts that this is going on.”

Jewelry like the necklace belonging to Arbuckle is becoming increasingly popular as a way for those who choose to keep cremation ashes of loved ones close by.

Brass said her ex-husband did not file a police report of the incident, but hopes whoever is responsible does the right thing and returns their son’s remains. She added that it’s not about the cross necklace or anything else that was taken. She just wants the remains of her son dropped off outside of the Dean Baldwin Painting facility where they were taken from, and no questions will be asked,

“If they want to keep the cross, keep the cross,” she said. “But please give us back what’s inside.”

Ball writes for the Kokomo, Indiana Tribune.